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  Are Jdubs going to put the elderly out to pasture with JW.org?

  by Coffee House Girl in

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  2. beliefs

  it will be interesting to see how things play out...but one example which got me to thinking about this is my mother.

  my mom is a 76 year old regular pioneer (she is one of those who believes that you are "nothing" if you are not a pioneer...the position is everything)-.

  i am moving in two weeks to go to grad school, so i have been trying to go out to visit...say goodbye...do things for her before i leave.

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  I'm not trying to brag, but being an EXJW is awesome!!! Status Update-

  by Coffee House Girl in

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  2. friends

  hello jwn!

  i don't get to check in here or comment as often as i would like because i have been working so hard at school...but i just have to share my news in hopes that newbees can see that taking the leap to enroll in higher education is worth it-.

  i am graduating this spring with a bachelor degree in art history, minor anthropology...many people (including nonjw's have given me flack for choosing a "dead end" career path) but since leaving the watchtower organization's group-think mentality and "leaning on my own understanding" instead... i decided to say fuck everyone else's opinion...i am going to pursue my passion to work in a museum as a curator or archivist-.

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  Did your congregation have a "Pioneer Appreciation Day"?

  by Coffee House Girl in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  my mom (who is now a regular pioneer) has been laid up after having major surgery, and i assert my "biblical" rights as a daughter to do what i can to take care of her, so i have been trying to go to her house on my day off to vaccum and run errands for her since she is not supposed to drive.. she called me last saturday to tell me that i couldn't come by because she was driving to her pioneer appreciation day get-together, wtf .

  i'm just curious if this only happens in my area (michigan, us)????.

  chg. .

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  Update & Moving on with life

  by Coffee House Girl in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  hello all, just wanted to update you all on my further steps in the exiting process (a process that may never end in some respects).

  to set up a context for my update: my story in a nutshel-.

  did a quick fade in the fall of 2009 to start going to university and escape a very unhappy living situation.

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  Lost my best friend (man's best friend)

  by Coffee House Girl in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  just wanted to write a tribute to my best friend whom i lost last week, it was one of the most painful experiences i have ever been through.

  i have no children, my puppy was my child.

  i got him from a golden retriever rescue organization when he was 2. he was recovering from a car accident, still a bit skiddish, but he chose me to take him home (the foster mom said that he never responded to anyone like he did me).. he was always happy to see me, greet me with a toy in his mouth, he never judged me, never cared whether i was "bad association", he was always there when i needed to smile and remembe that i was not alone in the world.

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  Update: I got the shun at my dad's funeral- the best outcome really!!

  by Coffee House Girl in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  hello all jwn .

  so glad to have that over with- it was surreal to walk in the kh after two years...it is just a building to me now (not "jehovah's house").

  i must say that now i'm on the outside...what a boring sad building- the people were not joyful and friendly (just older and fatter than i remember)- i got the nervous stares and shaky "hi" when i looked at all of them and said hello.. my mom was sitting all by herself in the front row of the hall...i went and sat by her side.

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  Anyone wanna place a bet on what will happen to me when I have to go to the Kingdom Hall this Saturday??

  by Coffee House Girl in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  well since there is no "betting" (as it reeks of gambling) in jdub land, lets place a friendly wager on what will happen to me when i go to my father's "memorial" service at the kingdome hall this saturday..... to give you newbies background info: i am neither df'd or da'd- i left 2 years ago with no explanation.

  i have been hounded by elders in my cong because they have suspicions that i am living with a man, but they have no proof (well, no proof in jdub land- you know...two witness rule).

  after many attempts to get me to meet with them- i finally sent the elders a "cease & desist" letter after one of them spied in my miniblinds to see me eating breakfast with someone (they couldn't identify who).

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  Thanks for your support JWN!!! Dad dies monday, JW family goes to convention on thursday

  by Coffee House Girl in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  coffee shop guy directed me to his thread...thank you so much everyone for your thoughts of support, it means a lot to have people who understand and show genuine sympathy.

  here's my experience so far.... my father dies monday night & my brother (nonjw) calls me to come home, when i arrive my father is still sitting on the couch- all the jw family is sitting in a semi-circle around him, my non jw brother is standing in the next room.

  no one is crying, no one is talking.

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  My dad wont make it too much longer, advise/experiences needed

  by Coffee House Girl in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  hello all at jwn,.

  so my mom called to tell me that my dad wont be able to come back home, he has been on kidney dialysis (along with having congestive heart failure and diabetes and dimentia...) but now he is breaking down and will have to be admitted to a hospice center for the remainder of his time left (without dialysis wont be two weeks).

  most of you know my situation, faded (not dfd or dad) but most of my family treats me like i am disfellowshipped except my mom and she keeps getting warnings from elders to cut off dealings with me- my dad is inactive but as head of the household he demands that i be able to visit and take care of mom and dad (so my mom must be submissive to his wishes).

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  Call out to faders- stories needed

  by Coffee House Girl in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  hey all out there on jwn, newbies and veteran favories:.

  i faded from my cong about 21 months ago and have been talking about my experiences leaving the org to a journalist who is interested in doing a freelance piece on exiting jws or even jws who have doubts/have eyes opened about the wtbs and stay "in" for family/friends.

  to put her subject of interest in her own words, she wants experiences of jws who are:.

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